“I will be happy when...” What continuation came to your mind when reading this phrase? Think about whether you maintain a balance between how you pay attention to what is happening outside and how you react to it? Do you look outside yourself for sources of approval to know you are okay? Who and what are you dependent on? Is it some person, food, excessive physical activity, extreme sports, money, TV... Does something (or someone) give you certain emotions that can shape your assessment of yourself? What emotions, feelings, sensations are these? You name them... We'll come back to them... Emotional independence is the ability to regulate your emotions and feel good without constantly waiting for approval, attention and confirmation from another person (or situation). Let's try to gain emotional independence right now (or take the first step to this)?1. We return to our emotions, feelings, sensations. What does this addiction give you? Think about what actions, actions, thoughts can bring you the same feelings and sensations as your emotional dependence? Try to do something where these emotions would be similar.2. Answer the questions: Why is it important for me to become emotionally independent? How do I feel when I have to rely on other people and things outside of my control to feel better? How do I see things changing in my life as a result of that I can better control my emotional state?3. Write down the thoughts and beliefs that keep you emotionally dependent. For example: “I need people to praise me to make me feel better.” Replace such thoughts with something neutral or positive, writing them down as if in opposition, for example: “I am capable of being okay despite how other people treat me.”4. Take more responsibility on yourself: for some things, decisions, and for your life in general.5. Say “no” if someone crosses boundaries, or when they want to get you to do something that you don’t want to do. The transition to emotional independence can be difficult, but if this path is accompanied by patience and practice, then anything will become possible. And if you are unable to gain emotional independence on your own, contact me for help. Subscribe to my public VK: vk.com/pavel_karev