Almost everyone has probably heard about abuse in the modern world. But what does this term mean? Who are abusers? Abusers are people who use manipulation and emotional pressure to achieve their goals. The range of tools they use can be very wide. This includes humiliation, ridicule, insult, and ignoring. An abuser will never miss the opportunity to criticize you, naturally using various sophisticated methods. Like, “Of course, I could have remained silent and not told you about this, but the way you dressed today is something special.” Or: “No, I understand your aspirations, it’s just strange that you even think that you can do this.” Such imaginary care that fills you with uncertainty and doubt. An abuser cannot live a day without being devalued. In a relationship with an abuser, you will constantly hear about how insignificant your problems, needs, and, in fact, you yourself are. Abusers are prone to age discrimination. An abusive boss will constantly say that first you need to live your life, and then give advice to people like him. An abusive parent will constantly laugh at the age of their own children, telling them that they have no right to their own opinion in principle. Often abusers play on feelings of guilt and shame. This is no coincidence, because it is these two feelings that can force a person to obey and fall into a trap. When an abuser manages to evoke one of these feelings, or even two, in his victim, he gets even more opportunities to manipulate her. Did you fail to make the person feel guilty or ashamed? It's time to start intimidating him. “So you will never get married.” “Yeah, that’s how you’ll spend your whole life sitting in an office for pennies.” Among abusers there are many demonstrative masochists. “Oh, no one thinks about me, I’ll die alone.” “It’s okay, I’ll be patient a little longer.” Abusers use many tools. In addition to the above, this can be passive aggression, gaslighting - an attempt to convince a person that he is inadequate, and many other methods. The most important thing to remember is that all these methods are aimed at emotionally suppressing your victim, making him the object of your manipulation. Knowing this, you can more often recognize an abuser in a person and stop his attempts to manipulate in the bud..