Personal boundaries are an arbitrary line that a person draws between himself and the environment. They determine what we allow to other people. Boundaries can be not only physical (touching, hugging), but also mental. Relatively speaking, they determine the degree of permissible interference of another person in our life: whether he can express his opinion, condemn, give advice. The personal boundaries of each person are quite flexible - we allow close people much more than strangers. Unfortunately, it is often those close to you who tend to behave incorrectly without noticing it themselves. You can find out that you are violating someone’s personal boundaries due to the following circumstances: 1. You were told about this directly. Do not be offended if you heard this from those closest to you: a child, spouse, parents or best friend. If you have been told several times that your advice and help are not needed, but you stubbornly continue to try to do good, you should not be surprised that instead of gratitude you will receive aggression in response. Think about it: maybe your behavior, which seems completely innocent to you and dictated solely by concern, is actually a gross violation of boundaries?2. You don’t have clear boundaries, so you don’t understand where other people’s begin. Often people with blurred boundaries themselves don’t understand that something is wrong. They are used to allowing others a lot in relation to themselves and do the same with their loved ones. This is a whole cycle of unsolicited advice, tactless questions, making decisions for another person under the sauce “I wanted what was best.”3. You are making a decision for another person. Have you ever promised your neighbor that your son would hang a chandelier for her without asking him first? Did you use your colleague’s things because he probably didn’t mind? Did you give valuable advice without asking your interlocutor whether he needed it? If you recognize yourself in one of these examples, then you are definitely prone to violating personal boundaries. How to change your behavior and build healthy relationships with your environment. Here are some recommendations: 1. Set your own boundaries. First, try to think about yourself, understand what you don’t like in other people’s attitude towards you, determine how you can and cannot behave with you. How do you feel when someone invades your space? Understanding yourself will help you understand others.2. Ask questions. Before expressing your opinion on a particular issue or advising something, simply ask whether it would be appropriate. Does the person want to know what you think about this? Does he need advice, or is he able to deal with the situation on his own?3. Learn to respond appropriately to the word “no.” If you offer help from the bottom of your heart and are told that it is not needed, calmly accept the refusal and go about your business. There is no need to try to do everything your own way and impose yourself, because you know better what your loved ones need. Let them decide for themselves what they want. Good luck understanding yourself!