From the author: You have to survive the first date. This event is difficult and exciting. The more emotions a person evokes in us, the more difficult it is to cope with them. We are carried away by a wave of feelings if we are in love. We easily lose our heads if we are hit by Cupid’s arrow. “He’s like that, like that, like that!” And I... And who am I..." If you are unsure of yourself, it is difficult not to beat yourself up. On the one hand, He paid attention to me! On the other hand, I know that he will definitely be disappointed in me. He just hasn’t understood yet. You have to be friends with yourself. And yes, yes. Talk. Too significant a goal + lack of self-confidence = reduces motivation up to complete abandonment of activities. And if we also have high demands on ourselves... And here it is logical to take two paths: - slightly reduce the importance of the event. Yes, this is important for me. But this is not a matter of life and death. This is the first, not the last date. - increase self-confidence, learn to see your worth. Most often, girls increase self-confidence through their appearance. At the same time, it would be good not to mindlessly chase fashion and not to use all the possibilities of cosmetology and the beauty industry at once. So that it doesn’t turn out like in the joke: “Terribly beautiful.” And in general, it is not advisable to experiment immediately before an important event. You need to dress and put on what you are used to. What you won’t think about and get nervous about. Being yourself is the way out. After all, wearing a mask and playing roles uses a colossal amount of your energy. Then the purpose of the date shifts from communication to making an impression. The fact of the matter is that at the beginning of a relationship, both parties often want to impress and “let their feathers down.” It is better not to take the first impression seriously, at least not to make any decisions if nothing out of the ordinary has happened. It would be good to calm down a little and think clearly. Like Scarlett O'Hara. I'll think about it tomorrow. What to pay attention to on the first date: Did the person you want come on time? Partly it's about how organized he or she is, partly about how important it is to him or her to be on time. How he or she is dressed. An image can say a lot about a person. Does your partner hear your request, your refusal. How does he react to them? Ridicule, rudeness and provocations at the first meeting should raise red flags. Of course, the ring on the finger or the mark from the ring should be taken into account. If you are worried and did something wrong, how does your partner feel about it? All the signs should help you make a first impression, which when you come home, it would be good to divide into two. They are greeted by their clothes, escorted by their intelligence. How to cope with anxiety? Do not suppress feelings, otherwise they may burst out at the wrong moment. Physical activity helps a lot. Even just taking a walk before an important meeting sets you up for a conversation. Concentrate on your breathing. Slow inhalation and even slower exhalation. Tears, shouting, dancing quickly to loud music relieve stress. Or, when meeting, you can immediately say: “You know, I’m worried and don’t know what to talk about.” This will relieve the tension of the first minutes and disarm the interlocutor. And you can immediately understand who is in front of you. Sincerity and charm will help you! And let your date be the start of something important!