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True values ​​as a way to consistently motivate yourself and others❓ Why do we do what we don’t want to do?❓ Why don’t we do what we want?❓ Why do we talk that we want something, but don’t do anything for it? The answer is simple and complex at the same time: because true values ​​and instrumental values ​​are mixed up.✔️ Read the article to the end and everything will become obvious to you. You realize how to manage your motivation and motivate others.✔️ At the end of the article I provide sample lists of true and instrumental values. Don’t look there until you read the entire article, for now it’s just a bunch of words for you.✔️ To understand and use one of the most effective methods of motivation and achieving goals, you should turn on systems thinking. After all, everything around us is systemic, interconnected and subordinate to hierarchy.✔️ We perceive not the real world, but its image in our head. This image consists of values, criteria, beliefs and templates, scenarios and patterns of thinking. ✔️ Our perception determines our emotions, behavior, and therefore the result of our actions.✔️ Our personality consists of needs, values, criteria, beliefs and then thinking, behavior, and so on.✔️ Needs are at the highest level, they are genetically determined and are in the area of ​​the unconscious. Different needs are important at different stages of life. For example, in infancy, physiological needs come first. In youth, the need to gain respect and recognition from others. In maturity, there is a need for self-respect and self-realization.✔️ We can feel our needs only through desires, states and feelings. There are no “bad” and “good” feelings. They all just signal the degree of satisfaction of needs.➖ Anger, despondency, irritation, anger, despair and the like indicate that some need is not satisfied.➕ Joy, pleasure, happiness, calmness, confidence, inspiration and so on say that the need is satisfied. Values ​​serve to satisfy needs. Values ​​can be true, or they can be instrumental. Instrumental values ​​are ways of achieving higher, true values. The very ones that motivate, that fill our real goals and contribute to their achievement. I will explain with an example. Let's take the true value of “health”.✔️ Think about what it is filled with for you? Let’s say these are the components “vigor and energy”, “attractive appearance”, “good health”. All these are instrumental values, they can also be called value criteria.✔️ Problems with motivation begin when we do not take into account the true value and elevate instrumental value to the first place.✔️ For example, if a person goes in for sports to gain an attractive figure, but does not takes into account the value “health”. He simply does not have enough motivation for long to achieve the value that is lower in the hierarchy.✔️ The higher the true value is in the hierarchy, the more conscious motivation we receive.✔️ When considering true value, we discover beliefs, they are literally woven into the system of criteria. ✔️ This is such an effective path to deep personal transformation that in my work I pay great attention to this. I will again show the value of “health” as an example.❓ Answer yourself the question “What does it take to be healthy?” The limiting belief here will be “To be healthy, you need to have a lot of money and spend it on a healthy lifestyle, it’s expensive.” Beliefs are rules and ways to realize value.❓ Will a person with such a limiting belief take care of his health? Limiting beliefs block the very possibility of realizing values ​​and needs. If we change beliefs, we gain freedom and a whole set of new opportunities for realizing values ​​and needs. For example, “To be healthy, you need to follow simple rules and be attentive to your condition.” And so,