From the author: I wanted one thing, but it turned out to be something else. I planned to write about how an appointment with a psychologist might take place. What happens at an appointment with a psychologist? This question is often of interest to those seeking psychological help. And everyone has their own ideas and expectations on this matter. Both for clients and psychologists. More often this question arises among those who have never been to a psychologist. Those who have visited different specialists know that this can happen in different ways. I know from myself that this is true, both as a consultant and as a client. This may depend on the direction in which the specialist works, his personal characteristics and other professional and personal preferences, including his mood. First, I wanted to write about how an appointment with a psychologist goes, using my own example. Once I started, I realized that everything was not as simple as it seemed before I started writing. And I wanted to touch in more detail on the topic of ideas and expectations with which a person can come to a psychologist - it seems to me really important. I will omit the expectations of a psychologist, which also occur, although they are similar. Having some idea of ​​how it could be, a person comes to a consultation and may be surprised to discover a discrepancy with the picture he had. Usually the client's idea of ​​psychotherapy is confused and distorted. Even if a person says that he does not know, he has these ideas. There are ideas about how a psychologist should behave, look, speak, work and help. Sometimes, not even in the first session, clients say it - with surprise, a smile, or simply accepting it. Some may react negatively, or be hesitant to say, for example, that there is too little technical terminology. And I can answer that, in my opinion, terminology is for professionals and we can discuss it. It's good when such an opportunity arises. It is desirable that the psychologist has the ability and ways to somehow respond to these expectations. After all, why did I decide to pay attention to this aspect? Because otherwise, nothing further may happen, the relationship may end before it even begins. It is very important to come to an agreement on mutual expectations. I think this is relevant for relationships in general and the discrepancy between the actual and the expected can actually be good.