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Many people enjoy being praised. They smile and their faces literally say: “Give, give more encouragement!” It also happens that in response to a compliment a person begins to enthusiastically praise himself, but there is another category of people who have a very difficult time accepting compliments and praise. These people get irritated, not they believe, try to avoid the conversation, someone can’t even find the words to respond to a compliment and looks very dejected at such moments. Why are people so shy about compliments? Often, embarrassment lies in low self-esteem. And when a person with low self-esteem is given a compliment, he begins to feel more embarrassed than happy. They don’t even suspect that when they receive compliments they can react differently. People with low self-esteem find it difficult to perceive praise as something they deserve. If a person believes that he is not handsome or talented enough, or responsible at work, then it is quite logical for him to be surprised at the compliment. Unfortunately, often compliments do not raise a person's self-esteem. Self-esteem rises as a result of deep work on oneself and in tandem with a psychologist. Sometimes in married couples, admiration from a partner can even lead to conflict. People with low self-esteem believe that their partners are lying to them and stop trusting them. Another reason why compliments cause discomfort is a distorted image of one’s own body, and often compliments said from the heart may not coincide with how a person feels and sees. The discrepancy between reality and thinking gives rise to cognitive dissonance. People with an incorrect body image often respond to compliments with a refutation, finding arguments for this refutation. The reason for the incorrect response to compliments may also be the fear of not meeting someone’s expectations. People with low self-esteem also set a low standard for themselves in life, rarely achieving serious heights. Also, the reason for an incorrect response to compliments may be a desire for peace. If a person is immersed in intense work, and at that moment he is told that he is the best artist in the world, he may simply automatically answer the interlocutor: “Yes, I know” and not respond fully. And yet, if you are uncomfortable accepting compliment, you must understand that your reaction should not put your interlocutor in an awkward situation, so the best response to a compliment on your part will be to show gratitude to the person: a smile and the answer “thank you, I’m very pleased” would be quite appropriate here.