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From the author: This article highlights the main types of parents depending on their methods of education and position in relation to the child. And also some recommendations are given to each type of parent in order to make the relationship with the child more harmonious. What types of parents are there? Authoritarian parents. (“Do what I say”) The main methods used by such parents are directiveness, strictness, and unquestioning execution of orders. What may be hiding behind this severity: lack of self-confidence, in the child, ignorance and inability to apply parenting methods. Parents demand that the child immediately carry out the orders received, sometimes without even explaining why he should do this. For some time, such methods work, but the child grows up, and these methods no longer allow achieving the desired behavior. This type of parent may use violence towards their children, setting a negative example for them. In the future, the child may use violence against peers, considering this to be the norm. Recommendations for parents: Order is important, but this should not turn into training. To start performing a new activity, the child needs some time to adjust, so do not demand immediate completion of the task, but give time to finish the previous task. Your requirements must correspond to the child’s capabilities and have at least a small explanation. Custodial parents. (“You are weak, you need to be constantly protected from external threats”) Parents are constantly worried about the child’s condition, and, therefore, control his every step, and all his independent steps are criticized. It is interesting that parents do not worry about the personal development of their child. Thus, over time, any activity and initiative is suppressed. All this excessive care leads to the fact that the child does not know how to stand up for himself, interact with peers, take initiative in solving pressing issues, relying on adults for everything. The fact that parents see a threat in the world around them is gradually transmitted to the child, and he begins to look at the world as potentially hostile. Recommendations for parents: It is important for parents to cope with their excessive anxiety. It is necessary to rationally assess what is really dangerous for the child, and what only seems so. You can ask the child’s opinion and ask him: what is he really afraid of? Irritable parents. (“You don’t know how to do anything”) Parents of this type base their upbringing on constant comments and claims towards the child. Emotional intimacy is replaced by remarks, and stroking by slaps and slaps. An adult initially does not believe in the capabilities of his child, even before he begins to do something. This parental behavior causes the child to lack self-confidence, fear of doing something, and low self-esteem. Recommendations for parents: All people can make mistakes and that’s normal. And if we are talking about a child, his growing up is a whole series of mistakes and finding the right solutions. You shouldn’t focus only on what he can’t do. A child’s mistake is not a disaster; all this can be corrected. And after some time he himself will learn to do it correctly. Give him the opportunity to make mistakes and find his own way to solve problems. In addition, any disadvantage after some time can become its advantage. Liberal parents. (“Do what you want”) Such parents believe that the child is free to decide for himself what to do. Therefore, they provide the child with greater freedom of action. They provide the opportunity to make mistakes, make decisions, experience the influence of external factors, and make your choice. When raising children, they are often very inconsistent in punishments: today the child was punished for this, but in a month they will be praised. Upbringing structured in this way can lead to the development in a child of such qualities as flattery, servility, and sycophancy. Recommendations for parents: Of course, there are advantages to this strategy,.