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The existential reality is such that, whether we want it or not, throughout our lives we are faced with questions that are related to our existence. The key difference between humans and animals - the presence of consciousness - confronts each of us with such problems as questions of life and death, the meaning of existence, loneliness and freedom. Moreover, the higher the reflexive abilities, the level of education, the degree of psychological development and sensitivity, the deeper and more painful these questions occupy a person, giving rise to existential crises. Recently, the term “crisis” is more often perceived as a process that has negative consequences. At the same time, periods of crisis, despite their complex, sometimes wounding and knocking down course, have as their goal a reassessment of outdated values ​​and a search for new meaning, that is, moving forward. It is important to understand that crisis is a normal element of human development. And this is especially worth emphasizing, since development is directly related to the opportunity and willingness to face the fact that some part of your life, way of thinking, way of interaction, rating scale... has become obsolete and requires updating. And the need to reconsider values ​​or behavioral strategies here should not be reduced to a simple evaluative categorization: good - bad. Looking back and taking into account the circumstances of life and the level of personal development that contributed to the development of these criteria for assessing reality and interacting with it, it should be noted that in those conditions, at that moment in time, these choices were correct and effective. There, then, and for some time after, the strategies developed were working and helped to exist qualitatively and achieve results that satisfied a person. But everything in our life has its deadline. Likewise, once working methods of behavior that satisfy meanings and value judgments appropriate to time and circumstances tend to become outdated. There comes a time when what was sufficient and acceptable yesterday does not fit into our picture of life today; our ideas about ourselves, opportunities and existence according to the “old rules” become unbearably painful. During this period, a person asks familiar questions more acutely, on a completely different, deeper level: - who am I? - why am I here? - what is the meaning of my existence? - what is my purpose? - how can I live further? - who am I? existing relationships? - have I achieved this and where should I move next? - what kind of parent/spouse/professional am I...? and many others. These questions are not new. With these kinds of experiences of finding yourself and trying to understand “Who Am I?” a person faces from birth. The birth and loss of such a blessed unity with the mother’s body is the first “frontier” when the baby is faced with the need for physical separation, which triggers a process of awareness and acceptance of its separateness and individuality that lasts a human life, but on a different, less tangible plane. There is a lot of evidence of this movement towards oneself, but there are also more striking ones. So, we all know very well this heartbreaking cry of a three-year-old child, when, in response to any offer of help, he, despite his real capabilities, bursts out with a demand for autonomy - “I myself!” During this period, the previously much-needed unity with the mother, her care and the desire to protect her from any difficulties in life begin to be seen as circumstances limiting autonomy and individuality, and the little person is faced with an unimaginable energy that pushes him towards recognizing himself separately from a significant other. And we are talking here not only and not so much about the desire to be independent in making decisions and “doing” things that are becoming more and more adult every day, but about the all-proclaiming statement “I am!”, “I am something separate from you and from others”, “I am not you!”, as well as about a deep attempt to understand through acceptance of one’s individuality “What am I?”, “Why am I]