From the author: More information on the website page - Author's website - In the book by Anteni de Melo “One Minute of Stupidity” I once read the following parable about parenting: “A mother asked when it was better to start raising a child daughters. - How old is she? - asked the Master. - Five. - Five years! Run home quickly! You’re already five years late.” Now most people probably have no doubt that they need to start raising their child as early as possible. With the question of when is the best time to start raising a child, I turned to women who were just expecting a baby, or who had recently become mothers. Some of them said that it is necessary to educate a child, starting from his very birth, others believed that education begins when the baby begins to respond to words and understand them. So when? To answer this question, I have another ancient eastern parable: “Once upon a time, a woman who had just given birth came to a sage and asked for advice on how to raise a child Smart, Kind, Wise and Omniscient. However, the sage answered her: “My dear... you are 9 months late.” It turns out that raising a child begins long before his birth. Namely, when a new life is just emerging in the body of his future mother. Of course, it is difficult to believe that a small new cell that has just formed in a woman’s body can somehow react to what is happening inside or around its mother... But it is so! This is confirmed by at least the fact that the mother with an unborn baby, the blood circulation is the same for both, so if the mother has excess adrenaline and cortisol in her blood (hormones that are secreted by the adrenal glands in a state of stress), then these same substances reach the child. But the baby, unlike his mother, does not have the ability to cope and react to these emotions. And if we add to this the fact that the uterus often becomes toned in such a situation, and the blood flow to the baby decreases, then the baby’s condition becomes very sad. There are many different studies in the field of prenatal medicine that claim that from the second half of pregnancy the child begins to have glimpses of consciousness. Severe stress in the third or fourth month of pregnancy will most likely have consequences for the nervous system; the child’s brain is not yet mature enough to translate information coming from the mother into emotion. Emotion involves not only feeling, but also giving meaning to that feeling. By the sixth month of pregnancy (by the 25th week), he is able to translate sensations into emotions; the internal reality of the unborn child begins to take shape under the influence of emotional information from the mother. Now, after we are convinced that it is necessary to raise a child from the moment of his conception, the question arises, how to do this? In fact, there are now quite a few ways of parenting before birth. I will list only part: 1. Physical contact. There is a method of establishing a connection with the baby through touch. It consists of a light massage, stroking the tummy, both by mom and dad. 2. Music. It has long been recognized as a means of communication that carries certain information. Scientists have now proven that listening to high-quality structured music by the mother during pregnancy strengthens the baby’s neurons and promotes the formation of close functional connections between the hemispheres of the brain. As a result, children have a greater ability to learn, to master reading and foreign languages. They have a very finely developed ear for music. 3. Conversation with the baby. Conversation shapes the perception of the mother's voice, the formation of the father's voice, and other family members. The frequency of the sound wave of the language in which communication occurs is closest to the child during the period of speech acquisition, and if the mother studied a foreign language or spoke foreign languages ​​during pregnancy, then the frequencies of this language will be included in the range of acceptability..