This article will focus specifically on women's voluntary childlessness due to the special significance that is given to it in society, especially in the post-Soviet space. And also in connection with the harsh, aggressive intolerance that both men and women demonstrate towards childfree women. Childfree, or voluntarily childless women, that is, women who voluntarily, with joy and inspiration, give up the role of mothers, the birth and upbringing of children - and they are happy. In the world, so many women suffer from infertility, miscarriage and other problems with the ability to conceive and bear children and give birth to a desired child, but these can and do refuse. You can’t imagine how many buckets of shit society pours on a voluntarily childless woman, especially a young one. They hate her, despise her, threaten her, demand that she become a normal woman, they try to humiliate and ridicule her. But rarely does anyone think about the lesson that childfree people bring to the world: “Children and parenthood are not a prerequisite for existence and not the absolute meaning of life " You can be childless and be happy, self-sufficient, fulfilled in your life. So much so that there are people who choose childlessness consciously and voluntarily. And this is a very important lesson. If people had the wisdom to look calmly at this otherness, they would find more opportunity and peace in their own lives. Just by looking and seeing that along with happy families with many children and simply “children”, there are voluntarily childless families - and also happy ones. And that every woman has a choice whether to fight for the rest of her life to give birth and become a mother or to see what opportunities open up in the life of a woman who is not capable of childbearing. And it is also useful to consider the fact that motherhood does not necessarily imply the presence of biological or even adopted children. Mother Teresa had neither. But she is known to us as Mother with a capital “M” not only because of her religious rank. Spiritual motherhood involves much more effort and free resources than biological or adoptive motherhood. Therefore, for some women, their business, or charity, or science, or art, or religion, or their favorite profession, or hobby - becomes the area where she turns into a spiritual mother for people or ideas. Such a mother has a different mission and simply does not have the resources for biological and domestic motherhood. As well as the time and energy to answer stupid and tactless questions in the style of “When are you going to give birth?” The problem arises when society imposes on such a woman the overvalued idea of ​​biological motherhood. If there is no inner desire and true intention to become a mother, if the soul wants to fulfill its real purpose, and it is replaced by the pop profanation “if you haven’t given birth, you are not a woman,” “a woman’s true purpose is to give birth,” the body can protect the soul with infertility and miscarriage. And it’s a big pain if a woman doesn’t understand what exactly is happening to her and begins to get angry at her body and fight against it. The task of a good psychologist in this situation is very difficult. If a psychologist himself believes in a universal destiny for a woman or considers childlessness to be a pathology, then can he really help or will he only harm, even if the woman eventually manages to break her internal barriers and gives birth? Life is multifaceted, diverse and amazing. And these words are about every person without exception. The ability to discern the uniqueness and special, inimitable mission of oneself, and especially of another person, is a great gift of sensitivity and wisdom. And I am convinced that the profession of a psychologist requires this gift, its nurturing, development and cultivation in oneself.