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In psychotherapy, the attitude towards advice is quite definite. Advice is an ineffective way to help a client and use session time. First, almost any advice a psychotherapist can offer has most likely already been tried by the client. Secondly, the psychotherapist’s advice removes responsibility for the consequences and actions from the client, which is absolutely forbidden to do. As an example, here is an excerpt from I. Yalom's work "Existential Psychotherapy", which more or less fits here:... For example, when working with a patient - a divorced, depressed woman desperately looking for another partner, the therapist may hesitate in his efforts to help her accept responsibility. Her resistance resonates with the therapist, and he begins to think: “The patient gives the impression of an attractive, likable woman, in our culture the life of a single 48-year-old woman is difficult, the environment of single people is really unpleasant in many ways, pleasant single and, moreover, heterosexual men in San Francisco is really not enough. Her job, which she needs to survive, does not allow her to meet people. Perhaps she is right: if only “Mr. Right” would appear, 90% of her problems would disappear without a trace. This patient is simply unlucky. ". So the therapist entered into a secret alliance with the patient’s resistance and soon, succumbing to temptation, begins to suggest strategies for meeting men - clubs for singles, dating via computer, single parents, etc. (as if the patient herself was not able to think of these possibilities) The therapist receives his real lesson when “Mr. Suitable” appears, but for some reason no happiness comes from this... On the other hand, in psychotherapy groups, the advice of the participants (not the psychotherapist - the leader of the group) is considered constructive. Despite the fact that they are most often as useless as the advice of psychotherapists, they demonstrate concern for the participant. Advice from loved ones plays exactly the same role. Thus, advice from loved ones is good, advice from a psychotherapist is not so good..